Breaking Through Fear

Fear is a tricky, sneaky little thing. It seeps its way into tiny little crevices, where it remains, until we inspect the corners of our minds and hearts and begin the process of sweeping it away. In the book “May Cause Miracles,” author Gabrielle Bernstein says that we must simply start with a willingness to see the fear. “The first step in choosing love over fear is to understand your fear,” Bernstein writes. “You can change patterns only if you’re willing to change it.”

When we let our fears accumulate in the unacknowledged cobwebs of our mind, we have no power to change, to grow and to live a life of love and authenticity. Fear is such a powerful force that oftentimes, without us even realizing it, it will dictate our everyday decisions, actions and reactions to the world around us.

Did fear cause you to stay quiet when you had a thought to share during the meeting? Did fear stop you from booking that Costa Rica retreat? What about when you hesitated stepping foot in the gym because of how you think you may be perceived? Or maybe fear drove you to choose the safe 9-5 job instead of pursuing your passions. Fear is subconsciously (or consciously) taking the steering wheel of our life and driving us down a path of playing small, thinking small, and living much smaller lives than we were ever intended to.

Okay, I hear you… but how do I stop?!

I am so glad you asked!!

While becoming aware of your fears and transitioning from a fear mindset into a love mindset certainly isn’t easy and doesn’t happen overnight, there are a handful of practices that can help you tap into your fierce, powerful, divine and conscious self.

1. Read inspirational, motivational texts. Books I would recommend for this purpose are “May Cause Miracles” by Gabrielle Bernstein, “A Course in Miracles”, and “Shift Happens” by Robert Holden. This, of course, is not the be-all-end-all. I would encourage you to find a text that resonated deeply with you.

2. Mix up your day-to-day routine. Doing something (anything) different is a great pattern interrupt to get you to step outside of repetition, mindless work and clutter. Whether that means you take a dance class, cook something new for dinner, take a weekend long road trip, or head to a Costa Rica yoga retreat, all of these things will force you outside of your comfort zone, past various fears, and into a state of new thinking.

3. Connect. Connect. Connect. Connect. I ca